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is my dad going way too far?
Printer-friendly versionHi,my name is kaylyn and i'm a self injurer,i've been cutting myself for like 4 years,nobody knew untill i got careless and cut myself in my school's hallway,i forgot they just put up survallence camera's,so they called me out of a class to go see the conselor,she called my dad,and he went balistic,he removed everyhing sharp from the house,and even went to the point of taking out all the doors in the house,i think he's going bit far with this,but i'm really afraid to talk to him about it,so can someone help me and give me advice on how to deal with this,or if my dad has a right to be this way,i really have no clue so,advice please!
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i think he is going to far
2 years () (Permalink)i think he is going to far because the same thing is happening to me. my parents discovered i was cutting for the second time and raided the house of everything sharp. they went through my room and even my garbage and took the lock off my door. it's terrifying. i know how you feel because im afraid to talk to them to. i also feel it's making everything worse because everything is so tense around the house now. so i guess i can't give you any advice but i can let you know that im going through the same thing so you're not alone :)
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Not entirely sure what's going on
2 years () (Permalink)Your father seems to be over the top. Without being so rude as to ask, I do wonder what kind of person he is. This brute force response to your behavior, your fear of talking to him about it, the fact that you're a cutter,.... "Healthy parenting does not produce a self-injuring child.". I hope he isn't as bad as I imagine he could be. If he is - putting it nicely - controlling, play him to get your privacy back. It may take some time, but it may not.
Controllers like to win. Let him think he has and he may buy it the second it's offered, give you your door back, and pat himself on the back for being the perfect dad. Then again, I imagine he could be one of those parents who believe that their children are a part of them and that your behavior makes him look bad. In that case, you may have to deal with the aftermath of this exposure for a longer period of time after raising the white flag while he assures himself that you're presenting yourself/himself as a perfect person to the world again. Just try not to let this turn of events freak you out too much. If it's not that he cares, he doesn't care enough to keep this up; he will lose interest in this after convincing himself that it's all taken care of and move on to the next thing.
Final thought, if you can handle it and it's safe, a confrontation about the doors (be careful not to make it about everything) may work to your advantage. It depends on how he works, but giving the impression that he has won without putting up any kind of fight - however brief - may make him question your reform for additional time.
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i agree that he is taking it
2 years () (Permalink)i agree that he is taking it way to far.. this is a really sensative subject, and he seems to be making it worce. for me, my mom and step dad raided my room and took everything sharp out of it.. it hurt because they didnt talk to me about it at all. It didnt help for me, it just made the situation worce.. trust me, i understand completely. But to me it sounds liek he isnt mad at you, you just is affraid it might get worce. but i cant speak fro him. I would try to talk to him when you are ready to. keep your head up!!
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-kstorm<3
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