Up until recently, I had thought one of my close friends just had anger issues. But recently she confessed to me that she wanted to hurt herself. I had never delt with any of this and I was scared because I didn't know what to tell her. I quickly googled self-harm and learned ways in which to help her out. But just the other day she had a major lash out and ended up locked in the restroom with a knife. It has been hard becuase I really want her to go see someone so she can get better but I can't make her. It is not my place to do so. I have told her whenever she is ready I will go with her. The problem she has is talking with strangers. She just doesn't want to talk with someone she doesn't know. I am writing this to share with other people who have friends who cut themeselves. It was hard to hear and I wasn't angry I was scared. I am trying my best to be positive and to be there when she needs me. But the first step I have learned is to get more informed about self-harm. The more informed I am the more I can help her. For me, this is the beginning of a journey towards self love for myself and for my friend. I have learned that you cannot help others if you do not help yourself first. She needs to love herself and appreciate her self worth. But in order for her to realize it, I also need to believe in myself.