I don't live in a boarding house. I've only dealt with living with a lot of people in hospital and I don't think that compares, though it was frustrating to have to share a room with other people and deal with them being there around the clock.

Maybe somebody else will see this and be able to answer from the perspective of somebody who's lived in board house type situation.

There are many self-injurers who cut without having an apparent reason/trigger at the time. It can get to be a habitual way of coping. I've heard self-injurers say they've cut when they're happy. Doesn't mean their self-injury is done for frivolous reasons but that that is their general way of coping with life or there is something they are gaining out of from self-injury apart from relieving negative emotions. There are so many reasons for self-injuring and not all tie in with depression or dissociation every single time.

So basically i met my first (and so far only) love last year and we was happily together for three months till i moved across the country. We still love each other but he has a girlfirend now whom he claims to love (atleast that's what he tells facebook) but he tells me that he could leave her in a heartbeat and he keeps her around cause it protects him from all the horrible girls that could try to after him, so my dumbass (sorry) told him to keep her, So i visited a few months ago and it was like she never existed and we did everything we used to do and so now i'm wondering... am i the "other woman"? or is she the "other woman"? is he cheating on me? or on her? idk.. i'm so confused..