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does anyone feel like what ever they sy or do just makes their life worst?

i try and say something to a boy an now he hates me. 

i say something to a friend to try and help and find her back stabbing me.

please help me

 

I think it does seem that way at times for probably every feeling person but these people who are so quick to hurt you aren't people you want in your life if they don't give you a chance or if they backstab you. It's good to have people in your life you can count on and they aren't it.

If you feel you're somehow at fault through harsh words then perhaps think before you say something but if you've said nothing wrong to these people then it's just that they aren't right for you and aren't worth hurting over (though, yes, it's inevitable to feel upset).

You are worth more than how these two individuals have treated you. Don't forget that.

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does anyone feel like what ever they sy or do just makes their life worst? in Ask a Question published by Anonymous 1 month ago ()

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What kind of influence has the Disney animated movies made in your life?

Disney Studios had made several animated movies that targeted pre-teenaged girls. Movies like Snow White and the Seven Dwarfs, Sleeping Beauty, The Little Mermaid, and Beauty and the Beast are all coming-of-age stories that always end with the young woman marrying the man who will make her safe and happy. I believe that these movies have influenced generations of girls by providing them with a blueprint for how they, too, can find safety and happiness in their lives. It is simply this: be beautiful, be kind, be in danger.

In any time in your life, has Disney given you the hope that if you met the right person, your life would be filled with happiness and the self-harming will cease to be necessary?  

 

I can't say Disney and their idea of happiness has had any influence on my self-injury. I was fifteen when I first started and had, up until that point, been turning to the Catholic Church in an unconscious effort for healing and happiness. That failed, and then I turned to therapy, hospitalizations, and medication to help me.

Considering my parent's rather unhappy marriage I wasn't sold on the idea of Disney forever after happiness and was not waiting for my own prince to 'save' me. The only one who can save you is yourself.

I consumed a lot of adult novels from about the age of seven on so that also could have countered the Disney ideal.

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What kind of influence has the Disney animated movies made in your life? in Ask a Question published by Anonymous 7 months ago ()

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What would happen if someone swallowed a piece of a razorblade and never got treatment for it and it's already been a week since it was ingested?

It's probably been excreted but I'd consult a doctor on this one. It's not something to mess around with.

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What would happen if someone swallowed a piece of a razorblade and never got treatment for it and it's already been a week since it was ingested? in Ask a Question published by Anonymous 7 months ago ()

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Does anyone live in a boarding house/with lots of people? And does it make you feel better being around all those people, or does it send you crazy?

I live in a boarding house of 60 girls, and sometimes I find it really difficult to be around people 24/7, and was wondering if any of you feel the same.

I don't live in a boarding house. I've only dealt with living with a lot of people in hospital and I don't think that compares, though it was frustrating to have to share a room with other people and deal with them being there around the clock.

Maybe somebody else will see this and be able to answer from the perspective of somebody who's lived in board house type situation.

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ElevatorMusicOnSteroids Does anyone live in a boarding house/with lots of people? And does it make you feel better being around all those people, or does it send you crazy? in Ask a Question published by 1 year ago ()

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is it self injury if you slowly starve yourself?

I have a tendency to slow down eating when I get sad.Is it self injury or just laziness, I don't know. I have suicidal ideation and low self esteem. 

 

 

I wouldn't call it self-injury but I think it could fall under the unbrella term self-harm if you're doing it for self-destructive reasons. However, changes in eating habits like that can often be caused by depression. Some people overeat when they're depressed and there are others who find themselves barely eating at all. If you notice this undereating when you're going through a period of sadness it's likely depression.

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is it self injury if you slowly starve yourself? in Ask a Question published by Anonymous 1 year ago ()

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ever get into 2ble digit cutting for no apparent/ immediate reason?

1st post - Today's just been one of those days, I'm a borderline type (bpd) but honestly nothing in particular seems to have set me off (I'm a little down and maybe it's partly from holding off until I had a chance to be alone) - anyway I'm probably at about 20+ cuts so far today, no swimming in my near future I suppose. Do other people have days like this, when you aren't really sure why you're doing it/ just kind of drifting away and cutting?

There are many self-injurers who cut without having an apparent reason/trigger at the time. It can get to be a habitual way of coping. I've heard self-injurers say they've cut when they're happy. Doesn't mean their self-injury is done for frivolous reasons but that that is their general way of coping with life or there is something they are gaining out of from self-injury apart from relieving negative emotions. There are so many reasons for self-injuring and not all tie in with depression or dissociation every single time.

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MooseCracker ever get into 2ble digit cutting for no apparent/ immediate reason? in Ask a Question published by 1 year ago ()

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How to help your self?

I have mild bipolar , OCD , Paranoia Personality Disorder , ADD , Epilepsy (Absence seizures) and anxiety.

I have been self injuring for 3 years now and I'm dealing with bulimia.

I have been hospitalized for both , and it hasn't worked.

Nothing works , nothing makes me feel better besides my two comfortw (bulimia and self injury)

I'm not fond of counsellers or therapists ,

is there any way I would be able to stop both without any mental help?

(i'm not taking medacation for anything though , cause I always puke when I take pills)

 

You're going to find out that nothing is going to make you feel as good as self-injury or other self-destructive behaviors such as bulimia. Once you let go of this idea and get comfortable with the idea you're going to *be* uncomfortable then starts the difficult part. 

However, it's only the start. I personally have been unable to entirely let go of self-injury and it's been about twelve years aside from two where I quit aside from one instance. There are no guarantees.

I've found that people who have a support system fare better. Groups of friends who are stable enough to offer support.

Also, it's going to be doubly tough since you have mental health issues (the bipolar and OCD) that aren't going to be cured from a talk with a friend and are usually controlled through medication, which is not an option for you now it seems. Closing the avenue of therapy/counselling might be a bit premature. There's tons of downright awful therapists but there are a few diamonds in the rough.  Read more »

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RainbowReyne How to help your self? in Ask a Question published by 2 years ago ()

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Am I the "Other Woman"?

So basically i met my first (and so far only) love last year and we was happily together for three months till i moved across the country. We still love each other but he has a girlfirend now whom he claims to love (atleast that's what he tells facebook) but he tells me that he could leave her in a heartbeat and he keeps her around cause it protects him from all the horrible girls that could try to after him, so my dumbass (sorry) told him to keep her, So i visited a few months ago and it was like she never existed and we did everything we used to do and so now i'm wondering... am i the "other woman"? or is she the "other woman"? is he cheating on me? or on her? idk.. i'm so confused..

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Am I the "Other Woman"? in Ask a Question published by Anonymous 2 years ago ()

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Dealing with friends who injure themselves?

Hi, I have a friend who I used to be very close to, and from time to time, she makes attempts to hurt herself.

Even though we're not as close as before, I'm still very worried about her. She doesn't injure herself, but she does indirectly. At school, we have plastic covers on our tables. she cuts the ends of the tables so that they are sharp and I even got scratched by those sharp edges. I then realised that she was actually hurting herself - indirectly. We wouldn't know that she was under emotional distress since she didn't directly hurt herself.

However, there was an occasion where she did hurt herself. I was really frustrated with her, I had no idea how to deal with her. She, however, misinterpreted my actions and thought I hated her. She proceeded to harm herself.

I really have no idea how to tell her to stop. I want to tell her that even if she harms herself, she can't solve her problems, but I cannot bring myself to do so, because if I did, she'd think I was insulting her directly.

You really can't tell her to stop because unless she wants to stop for herself it's likely not going to work. To stop she has to be ready to stop or she has to want to stop completely, not half-heartedly or because others want her to stop. The most you can do as a friend is let her know you're there to support her when she's feeling upset, that you're willing to listen without judgment. If you feel too frustrated or unequipped to do this then perhaps it's best to leave it to other friends because if you start telling her she has to stop and getting frustrated when she doesn't it's not likely to help.

If you feel she's a real danger to herself (suicide, severe permanent damage) then approaching an adult would be best but will most likely end the friendship. 

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Dealing with friends who injure themselves? in Ask a Question published by Anonymous 2 years ago ()

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