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What is the best way to get ablade, when you have left them at your house,but cant go back?

Hi. My name is Alice ( not real name) but I was wonderin how you could get a blade, etc. if your in a public place, when you have forgotten your blades at home, and you can't go back. This happened to me today, and i want to know ccuase im dying of not being able to cut.

I don't feel comfortable giving tips on how to self-injure or what to use or where to get tools. I feel this is an individual choice and I'd feel bad helping somebody injure themselves. I feel everybody has the right to self-injure but that it's their personal choice and not something I should encourage by giving tips. Aside from that there could be repercussions for this website if I was handing out advice on where to buy blades. Sorry. :/

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What is the best way to get ablade, when you have left them at your house,but cant go back? in Ask a Question published by Anonymous 2 weeks ago ()

how do you blog?

i want to write to get all my thoughts out there but im not sure where?

There are a number of ways you can reach the Add Blog Post page (which is here: http://self-injury.net/node/add/blog).

First off, there's a link in the menu on the desktop layout to the left:

Also, if you click the 'Add Content' link in the menu to the left:

or the menu to the right:

you should get to a page where there's a list of content you can add:

 

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Also, if you click 'Dashboard' in the menu on the right:

you should see this:

On any page of the blog(s) you should see this menu on the middle left:

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How can I stop all these negative thoughts?

How can I stop feeling so negative about myself and my life.. How?

Now that's a difficult question. I think you could start by attempting to cancel negative thoughts with positive thoughts. I've heard of people writing down positive thoughts in response to their negative thoughts or saying them aloud. Some people say affirmations (positive things about oneself) every morning and/or night or throughout the day. They write down positive things and put them on sticky notes where they can see them. 

Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) is supposed to help with reworking how one thinks, as well. I'm not sure how feasible that is. Even regular therapy can help towards this.

You are a worthwhile human being so you just need to tweak your thinking so not everything about you is negative in your mind's eye. 

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Who do you report to when an adult expresses intent to hurt him or herself or another?

Hello,

I am a graduate student as well as a research assistant in California. In working with certain populations I know that schools need to be notified when underage students report intent to hurt themselves or another. However, what are the protocols for reporting adults or college students (who are of legal age) who want to hurt themselves or another? In other words who do I report to?

Thank you

I'm sorry but I don't know the answer to your question. I've never worked in any capacity in the school system or been in a situation where I reported an adult aside from calling 911 for a suicide attempt. 

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How can I make people understand it's not thier fault I self harm?

I don't want my parents or boyfriend thinking it's because of them, I love them all to death.  There are some occassions where that upset me and that causes me to do it, but it's not beause of them originally, it's just a bad habit, an addiction, and I can't stop, I want to stop but at the same time I can't, sometimes I make myself upset, just so I can cut deeper, but I really don't understand why, it doesn't make sense to me, and if my own doings don't make sense to me, how am I supposed to explain it to others?

If anyone else feels or does the same, please help me or just tell me :/

I've never felt so alone.

You can tell them you love them and that self-harm is an issue you're struggling to find words for but that it has very little to do with their behavior towards you. You don't self-harm because they've done something wrong, you self-harm because you're depressed or have anxiety or need to change the noise in your head to something more palatable or whatever your reason is and that even though you do give in and self-harm that it doesn't mean you're trying to reflect any of it on them. You're hurting and it's highly personal and it's not meant to punish them for what they might feel you feel is their wrongdoings.

You're definitely not alone. I've had friends and family feel that my self-harm is used to punish them or in response to things they've done and the only thing I can tell them is the truth, that it's meant to punish me. You'll eventually find the words to let your friends and family know how it is for you.

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How can I make people understand it's not thier fault I self harm? in Ask a Question published by Anonymous 1 month ago ()

wjat should i do?

My friend is self harming. I don't know what to do. She's only told me and one of her other friends. I can't stand to see her this way because she's helped me with everything for the past year, and I feel like she needs me. She's been threatened and yelled at and hit. Not to mention her boyfriend of a year or so recently broke up with her and she hasn't been able to get over him. And now one of her best friends decided to leave her for different people. I love her to bits and I don't know how to help. Help me please?!?!

Let her know that you love her and that you'll try to be there for her as much as you can. You're willing to listen when she needs to vent or just be there if she needs somebody to sit by her. All you really can do is support her, listen, talk to her, and let her know she's not alone. Despite the fact that some people are gone from her life you're not and you plan on being there for her and that not everybody has given up on her. 

You can't really stop her from self-injuring if she's not ready to stop but you can do your best to be her friend and confidante. She'll need somebody in her life like you.

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What are good methods for endin my self harm addiction quickly? Thank you.

First off, you have to deep down want to stop. No sort of or maybe.

Then you have to realize nothing is going to replace it that isn't also unhealthy. That you're going to have to work through uncomfortable feelings and that it will ultimately get easier to do so without self-injury as a crutch.

Getting some form of therapy and, if your therapist deems it necessary, treatment of any mental illness you have (if you have one) would also be important. So that usually means telling people like your parents if you're a teen. If you're not, telling somebody like a significant other or good friend is important so you can get support through your treatment. If you're a teen a good circle of supportive people is helpful. Trying to do this all on your own makes it doubly difficult. 

For issues like this there's rarely a quick fix because you need to work out the issues behind the behavior. Basically, why you're self-injuring is important to figure out and try to resolve.

Quick things you can try is telling yourself you can self-injure in an hour if you feel the same way and try to see if you can put it off another hour (or longer) when that time passes by.

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What are good methods for endin my self harm addiction quickly? Thank you. in Ask a Question published by 1 month ago ()

is there a way to get rid of self harm

First off, you have to be at the point you're willing and ready to stop for yourself. Not for a family member, significant other, or friend.

You'll be sitting with uncomfortable feelings at certain points and you'll have to deal with them in positive ways. There's nothing that is a stand-in replacement for self-injury that isn't also self-destructive. 

You have to have a supportive circle of people who can help you get through your recovery. It's doubly hard to recover if you're doing it on your own.

Finding a therapist or counselor and perhaps a psychiatrist if there's an underlying mental illness is also important. You'll need that support to work through the underlying issues that cause you to self-injure. You have to realize things might get worse at first but it usually evens out as your start learning to cope with the feelings you've been suppressing or changing with self-injury. Self-injury is a mask, a crutch, and while that isn't the worst thing it does impact how you deal with emotions so you have to re-learn dealing with emotions in a healthy way.

Good luck. I hope you can tell somebody and get the help you need. 

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is there a way to get rid of self harm in Ask a Question published by Anonymous 1 month ago ()

Why do people hate me?

Hi,I'm Hannah and I have been self harming since 21st January,2013 I just need to ask this :
Why do people hate me?
I am the nicest person you could ever meet,Not the prettiest,not the smartest,not the most popular.
So let me ask you,why would they hate me,I don't b**** about them,Not a snitch,don't grass people up.
 
Help :/

People hate people who have been chosen by whatever social system they belong to as being an outsider. There doesn't need to be anything wrong with them. They don't need to be anti-social, bad, mean, or really anything at all. There isn't always a reason for hate.

I'm sorry you're going through this. Have you looked into any anti-bullying groups for support? 

http://www.thetrevorproject.org/
http://www.pacer.org/bullying/
http://www.glsen.org/cgi-bin/iowa/all/home/index.html

I hope you can get through this. Take care!
 

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Why do people hate me? in Ask a Question published by Anonymous 1 month ago ()

Help.

Hey Guys, I Have Been Cutting For A Year Now, And My Parents Recently Found Out. I Am Being Admitted To Counciling, But Do Not Want To Go. My Sister Has Done This And In My Parents Point Of View They Think They Did The Wright Thing.....My Older Sister Was Admitted Into A Syke-Atric Ward 2005-2006 In And Out. I Hate How My Parents Are Reacting To This, Every New Cut=A Room Excpection For Razors. Please Help Me, My Parents Are Trying, But Truthfully, Are Making Me Want To Do It Even More.

I think your parents are doing the best they can but I think room inspections could be seen as an invasion of privacy. I don't think their hope you will engage in counseling is unreasonable though. I found counseling helpful in dealing with background issues that were very important to me. Not so much with the self-injury itself but it eventually helped with that as a side-effect. 

I do hope your parents aren't threatening to send you inpatient just for self-injuring. It'd only be reasonable if they felt you were a serious danger to yourself.

You won't stop self-injuring until you're ready to do so and if your parents knew more about self-injury they'd know that. However, I don't think there's a really good way to let parents in on this. They feel you're threatened by your behavior and want to do their best to stamp it out and, yes, it's perfectly understandable this makes you want to self-injure more.

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