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Im not sure if I'm a self harmer, or if I'm displaying potential to become one.

I suffer and am medicated for anxiety and depression. I do have a short temper and I'm very, very hard on myself.

Recently, I've noticed that when I am very frustrated, in 'I want to pull my hair moments', I start to hit myself in the head with my fists. I'm sure I've been doing it for years, but about a month ago I noticed that when I hit myself hard, I felt relief and I kept on doing. I've consciously hit myself in the head twice now to get this feeling of relief.

I guess I just needed to share this with someone, but does this sound like self harming?

That does sound like self-harm. You're intentionally hurting yourself to get some form of emotional relief which is a fairly common reason for it. I do hope you're getting some support for it. Take care.

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Im not sure if I'm a self harmer, or if I'm displaying potential to become one. in Ask a Question published by Anonymous 4 days ago ()

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what can i do instead of cutting?!?!

You can tell yourself that in half an hour if you still feel the same you have permission to hurt yourself. After that half hour is up you can see if you can give it another half hour or longer.

Therer's an extensive list of distractions here: http://self-injury.net/information-recovery/recovery/distractions

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im triggered all the time !

every second i think about self harm and im fighting it people keep teling me to keep on fighting but i just cant take this anymore!

Have you ever tried therapy? You shouldn't have to fight this on your own. I'd look into getting a counselor or therapist and having a supportive circle of loved ones you can talk to when you are triggered. Being triggered all the time is very difficult but there are options you have. Yes, perhaps some people may be upset you self-injure but taking care of yourself should be number one and not sparing their feelings. Good luck.

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What is the best way to get ablade, when you have left them at your house,but cant go back?

Hi. My name is Alice ( not real name) but I was wonderin how you could get a blade, etc. if your in a public place, when you have forgotten your blades at home, and you can't go back. This happened to me today, and i want to know ccuase im dying of not being able to cut.

I don't feel comfortable giving tips on how to self-injure or what to use or where to get tools. I feel this is an individual choice and I'd feel bad helping somebody injure themselves. I feel everybody has the right to self-injure but that it's their personal choice and not something I should encourage by giving tips. Aside from that there could be repercussions for this website if I was handing out advice on where to buy blades. Sorry. :/

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What is the best way to get ablade, when you have left them at your house,but cant go back? in Ask a Question published by Anonymous 1 month ago ()

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how do you blog?

i want to write to get all my thoughts out there but im not sure where?

There are a number of ways you can reach the Add Blog Post page (which is here: http://self-injury.net/node/add/blog).

First off, there's a link in the menu on the desktop layout to the left:

Also, if you click the 'Add Content' link in the menu to the left:

or the menu to the right:

you should get to a page where there's a list of content you can add:

 

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Also, if you click 'Dashboard' in the menu on the right:

you should see this:

On any page of the blog(s) you should see this menu on the middle left:

Read more »

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How can I stop all these negative thoughts?

How can I stop feeling so negative about myself and my life.. How?

Now that's a difficult question. I think you could start by attempting to cancel negative thoughts with positive thoughts. I've heard of people writing down positive thoughts in response to their negative thoughts or saying them aloud. Some people say affirmations (positive things about oneself) every morning and/or night or throughout the day. They write down positive things and put them on sticky notes where they can see them. 

Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) is supposed to help with reworking how one thinks, as well. I'm not sure how feasible that is. Even regular therapy can help towards this.

You are a worthwhile human being so you just need to tweak your thinking so not everything about you is negative in your mind's eye. 

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Who do you report to when an adult expresses intent to hurt him or herself or another?

Hello,

I am a graduate student as well as a research assistant in California. In working with certain populations I know that schools need to be notified when underage students report intent to hurt themselves or another. However, what are the protocols for reporting adults or college students (who are of legal age) who want to hurt themselves or another? In other words who do I report to?

Thank you

I'm sorry but I don't know the answer to your question. I've never worked in any capacity in the school system or been in a situation where I reported an adult aside from calling 911 for a suicide attempt. 

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How can I make people understand it's not thier fault I self harm?

I don't want my parents or boyfriend thinking it's because of them, I love them all to death.  There are some occassions where that upset me and that causes me to do it, but it's not beause of them originally, it's just a bad habit, an addiction, and I can't stop, I want to stop but at the same time I can't, sometimes I make myself upset, just so I can cut deeper, but I really don't understand why, it doesn't make sense to me, and if my own doings don't make sense to me, how am I supposed to explain it to others?

If anyone else feels or does the same, please help me or just tell me :/

I've never felt so alone.

You can tell them you love them and that self-harm is an issue you're struggling to find words for but that it has very little to do with their behavior towards you. You don't self-harm because they've done something wrong, you self-harm because you're depressed or have anxiety or need to change the noise in your head to something more palatable or whatever your reason is and that even though you do give in and self-harm that it doesn't mean you're trying to reflect any of it on them. You're hurting and it's highly personal and it's not meant to punish them for what they might feel you feel is their wrongdoings.

You're definitely not alone. I've had friends and family feel that my self-harm is used to punish them or in response to things they've done and the only thing I can tell them is the truth, that it's meant to punish me. You'll eventually find the words to let your friends and family know how it is for you.

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wjat should i do?

My friend is self harming. I don't know what to do. She's only told me and one of her other friends. I can't stand to see her this way because she's helped me with everything for the past year, and I feel like she needs me. She's been threatened and yelled at and hit. Not to mention her boyfriend of a year or so recently broke up with her and she hasn't been able to get over him. And now one of her best friends decided to leave her for different people. I love her to bits and I don't know how to help. Help me please?!?!

Let her know that you love her and that you'll try to be there for her as much as you can. You're willing to listen when she needs to vent or just be there if she needs somebody to sit by her. All you really can do is support her, listen, talk to her, and let her know she's not alone. Despite the fact that some people are gone from her life you're not and you plan on being there for her and that not everybody has given up on her. 

You can't really stop her from self-injuring if she's not ready to stop but you can do your best to be her friend and confidante. She'll need somebody in her life like you.

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What are good methods for endin my self harm addiction quickly? Thank you.

First off, you have to deep down want to stop. No sort of or maybe.

Then you have to realize nothing is going to replace it that isn't also unhealthy. That you're going to have to work through uncomfortable feelings and that it will ultimately get easier to do so without self-injury as a crutch.

Getting some form of therapy and, if your therapist deems it necessary, treatment of any mental illness you have (if you have one) would also be important. So that usually means telling people like your parents if you're a teen. If you're not, telling somebody like a significant other or good friend is important so you can get support through your treatment. If you're a teen a good circle of supportive people is helpful. Trying to do this all on your own makes it doubly difficult. 

For issues like this there's rarely a quick fix because you need to work out the issues behind the behavior. Basically, why you're self-injuring is important to figure out and try to resolve.

Quick things you can try is telling yourself you can self-injure in an hour if you feel the same way and try to see if you can put it off another hour (or longer) when that time passes by.

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