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I think it all depends on if you're friends and good friends at that. If you're friends by group of friends and barely interact or if you're just acquaintances or even strangers... I've heard more than one person say they'd not want to be approached. Some even say that being a self-injurer does not make an automatic connection to another person or even mean you're alike.

I'm just saying this because more than one person with self-injury scars is not going to be happy if you approach them about the fact that they currently self-injure or have self-injured in the past. Doesn't matter if they think you're just a concerned person who doesn't self-injure.

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I was approached at work repeatedly by a co-worker about my scars. He kept asking where they were from. This went on for weeks. 

Finally, I asked, 'Where do you think they're from?' He said he thought I'd done them myself. I confirmed this. We went on being co-workers and never discussed it again.

He said he'd asked out of concern/curiosity.

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Now I'm not saying you would ask repeatedly but I personally was uncomfortable with the question and concern from somebody I was on friendly terms with but wasn't a friend outside of work and wasn't somebody I was interested in talking with about self-injury.