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Pretty worried about a friend's kid.
Printer-friendly versionI have self-harmed for the last 10 years. I think I am coming out of it, but right now that is not the issue.
I have just found out that the 14 year old child of my best friend has started cutting. I am totally petrified that seeing my scars put the idea in his head... I really feel that if I hadn't been so open about my own scars, he might not have turned to this avenue of 'coping'.
I want to talk to him, but I really have no idea where to even start. I want to shake him, wave my arms in front of him and ask him if he wants to end up looking like this... But I know that won't help.
Does anyone have any suggestions how to go about talking about this? So completely stuck.
I'd suggest going to your friend before trying to talk with him. Not that trying to talk a person out of self-injuring is wrong but going over the head of a friend -- unless you have some authority or the friend is abusive or otherwise incompetent -- with their kid might be stepping on their toes.
It's tricky trying to talk to young people. Nothing makes them shut down so fast as saying 'don't do x', especially if you have done x in the past or are still doing x now.
These factsheets from FirstSigns might be a step in figuring out how to approach it from different points-of-view.
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