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I have recently gained a new boyfriend and we are very much in love ;) i havent self harmed in over a year but unfortunatly rencently had a relapse but just this once and i do not know whether to tell him or just hide it or what please help!

I think it depends on your sense of where the relationship is heading. It probably would be better to talk about it in case there are other relapses or if you're struggling. I don't know what sort of self-injury you practice, whether or not it has left scars, and also if your relapse has left some sort of mark... but if you are mutually in love and you want a future with him I'm not sure attempting to conceal it is the best start, especially since it's not a thing that is completely in the past. Also, his reaction if he later finds out you've been concealing it from him, issues of trust are tricky.

However, you must know up front that not every significant other is equipped to deal with self-injury or wants to deal with self-injury. There is no guarantees on his reaction so, ultimately, the decision is up you and if you think the relationship is established/strong enough to deal with an issue like self-injury.

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