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I wouldn't use the word wrong to describe it since I associate the words right and wrong with morals and that really has no place in the discussion.

I think people feel self-injury, cutting or any of its other forms, is bad because it's an immediate and visceral communication of painful feelings and that in itself is difficult for people to see in their loved ones. It's showing that the person does not care for themselves enough to keep themselves from pain, which is something most humans like to avoid. 

I know when I learned of what some difficulties a loved one went through with suicidal impulses I started crying a few days later because it hurt that I had not noticed and that they had been in so much pain they had decided that they wanted to die. That may be seen as selfish, yadda, yadda, yadda but it's no more selfish than suicide itself is selfish (on the fence on that one). Both are selfish or none are selfish. 

Loved ones may go through similar feelings when it comes to self-injury. They feel it's bad and that self-injury is an addiction that is hurting the person they love. Self-injury injury is a psychological addiction for some so that's not entirely invalid. They also see it as a hindrance to emotional healing for their loved one. How can the person they love heal when instead of turning for help or going to therapy or using other healthier coping skills they're self-injuring?

So I don't think it's bad (for me) since I identified as a self-injurer for quite a long time and still have my relapses but I can see why other people feel it's bad.