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[female, age 18, began to SI at age 12]
Printer-friendly versionMostly cutting with a razor or with a sharp butcher knife. I've tried burning a few times, but it isn't as good because there's no blood. I used to do scratching, and sometimes pinching.
For Self-Injurers - In Their Own Words published by 3 years ago ()
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Not working.
1 year () (Permalink)It's just not working. I saw it, looking at it right now, but couldn't figure out what was wrong with it. I basically just came up with a error message.
Do you understand where I'm coming from though?
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Chrome gave me an error when
1 year () (Permalink)Chrome gave me an error when linking directly (could not find page) but clicked on it normally and it went through. Need to test IE next hour.
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I understand where you're
1 year () (Permalink)I understand where you're coming from. I dislike these sections and have thought about removing them before. It's one of the reasons I tell people asking me questions on hiding cuts/wounds (though I believe I answered one relating to a dance and hiding scars with makeup) that I won't answer them.
People need to whip out the lists on what they're using and how everywhere. It just came up on the forum in a thread I'll probably be closing. It's just harder to monitor here because I feel guilty (strange?) about removing a section that's been here since this was a basic HTML site but after I saw somebody linking to the section on hiding as some sort of guideline I've moved more towards removing it.
However, to say it's not a support site is preposterous. I can't count how many people have told me that visiting this site, seeing the artwork, talking through blogs has gotten them through times when they thought they were going to kill themselves.
It's rough around the edges, it has sections I hate (I'm not about literary-type poetry and quotes than dissecting postings on what tools you're using and where on your body you're self-injuring). Polls were one thing, long posts instead of just using the poll are another.
I've put in place rules that weren't here in the beginning so it has gotten better as hard as unbelievable as it may seem.
I'm still uncertain of what to do as this point about these sections because I think why is certainly important. Far more important than how.
However, people will always write about how/what outside of these sections, as uncomfortable as it may be and however much people like me think it's pointless and however much people like me used to remember it felt good to write out.
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I tested it in Firefox (which isn't my main browser) and it went through. Got some e-mail through it recently, as well. Any particular error? Will test in IE and Chrome but I have IE9 which most people likely don't use just quite yet.
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Did my one thing post?
1 year () (Permalink)I wrote another reply, but I'm not to sure if it actually posted or not... If it did I'm sorry for posting again. XD
It was my sorry thing. o.O
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Yes, it posted (am replying).
1 year () (Permalink)Yes, it posted (am replying). :) Anonymous posts just don't show up right away because there'd be abuse from people at the members.
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I understand what you're
1 year () (Permalink)I understand what you're saying I really do, and I'm sorry that I freaked out a bit. It's just, coming from a person who did struggled with self-mutilation since the age of eleven, and just finally pulled through it, and now almost eighteen, it's hard to see these posts.
Why? Because some of these people who are posting on here, are very young, and they honestly don't know what they're going to be doing to themselves in the future.
I understand what the main point of this thread was suppose to be, but I don't think the people posting did. Some seem excited to post about their scars, and whole cool a new scar looks. It scares me a little, and it also makes me think that other people are going to try that, because of what the other said about it. You know what I mean?
Sorry I freaked out though, I didn't go through the rest of the site very well. I do see what you mean, but I honestly believe that this thread, and the other one about how to hide scars should be gone. That's just my opinion though. Only because I don't think many understand that the whole point of these threads. Instead of helping someone out who has the same problem as them, they comment about what they use instead, and add in other objects that work just as well.
I see how it is a support group, but this thread... I don't know, it has bad new written all over it. I'm saying this, because I know that if I was that young again, and saw other ways of cutting myself, I'd probably go and try it. Honestly.
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Also, I have Google Chrome. Actually a few things don't work for me on here. I had a difficult time posting my first message, and the whole thing with contacting someone. Then again, maybe it's just because I'm slow with computers. XD
Once again, I'm VERY sorry for freaking out.
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Decided to remove those
1 year () (Permalink)Decided to remove those questions from the list so there's no way of seeing them all in one section. Thanks for moving me to do it sooner rather than later! :) I'd wanted to but I tend wiffle waffle on big changes. Removing them altogether will be harder since you just can't hit remove all or anything. Maybe a special query...
A lot of people do get excited when they get a chance to talk about tools and what they're doing. People do pick up on these and sometimes use them as tips towards their own SI. I wish there could be some balance there since it's nice to hear one isn't a freak for doing a, b, and c but then there's people saying they also do e, f, and g and a little bit of h with tool y.
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I posted anonymous on Google Chrome but had no issue except that somebody took the name Anonymous, heh. Wonder if it has to do with the caching system in your case. Not sure, something to look into. I usually am just logged in on Chrome.
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I understand.
1 year () (Permalink)Yeah, I understand how that may be a little hard. When I use to do things like that, it was always nice to hear that I wasn't alone, and that I really wasn't a freak. So, that one is going to be a tad bit difficult for you to figure out what to do with.
I just wish some actually new what they were doing to themselves, instead of seeming almost proud of it. They'll learn one day I guess.
Well, once again I'm sorry for freaking out at first. Also, I hope you figure out what you're going to do with all of this. :D I actually went through some of the art on here, and some of the drawings and photos, are amazing!
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It could also because, I'm stupid when it comes to new sites. Haha. Or maybe just my computer, because I swear the thing hates me.
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To the creators of this site.
1 year () (Permalink)((This is to the creators of this site. Not the persons comment. I just couldn't figure out how to message you people, because you're site is messed up.))
Okay, first off I'd like to say that this is all coming from a person who did use to self-harm. I was a cutter from the age of 12 to 16.
What's this site suppose to be for? Helping people who self-harm? Or teaching young kids new ways of self-harming? This is wrong in more ways then one! Sure, these kids have a safe place where they can come and talk about their problems, and how they deal with them, but having things like this(How do you SI?) is just wrong!
You're teaching these kids that it's okay to hurt themselves, and that you're not alone. With all these other people who are explaining how they hurt themselves is just teaching them more ways to self-harm themselves. I really don't understand. Are you people trying to help these kids out or not? It makes no sense to me!
Some of the things I read that these kids posted were very sever cases of self-harm. They need help stopping, not people being like "Oh! I got this really new amazing scar from this comb I used!" No. That's WRONG!
Ingesting toxins, and slicing the crap out of yourself? Yeah, you could seriously get hurt that way, or even die. Now I know that most people who self-harm aren't suicidal, trust me I've been there. However, one little slip up, and they could bleed to death. Yet, I don't see anyone telling these people how to deal with their problems, or how to help themselves.
Yeah, most would probably say that they don't want to stop. That they like what they do, yet these people still need a guiding hand. For someone to show them that they care enough to help them stop.
How do you hide your self-injury? Really? Now you're giving more kids ways of being able to hid their cuts, or burns, or whatever else they may have. Once again. Wrong.
Some of these people who have wrote on here are young, and they don't know what they're going to be doing to themselves in the future. It'll be hard to find a decent relationship when there body is cut up to crap. Or they look like a burn victim!
This isn't a support group, it's far from it.
You'll regret it in the future, that's for sure.
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I fail to see how giving
1 year () (Permalink)I fail to see how giving advice on hiding scars is "wrong". Unfortunately, we live in a time where there is a huge stigma around SI, and an SIer should be prepared to avoid negative comments and impressions by preventing people seeing their scars/cuts. Is that so wrong?
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It could be changed from
1 year () (Permalink)It could be changed from hiding all wounds to hiding scars, which I do think is important considering how fucked up it can be to be forced into a uniform or something equally exposing. I know I had long sleeves at every one of my job interviews because I could get away with it.
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Yeah, sounds like a good
1 year () (Permalink)Yeah, sounds like a good thing to do.
Uniforms are the worst, and it's really unfortunate for SIers. =/
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Don't I know it? I worked at
1 year () (Permalink)Don't I know it? I worked at a movie theater and the uniforms had short sleeves. I'd get people telling me not to do that to myself, giving me their number because I should be nice to myself, nudging their friends so they can stare and make disgusted faces, etc. I never really cut my arms a whole lot either so it was uncomfortable when it would happen so I'd think it'd be more difficult if they were one of your main targets when it comes to SI.
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God, that sounds like a shit
1 year () (Permalink)God, that sounds like a shit time.
I don't know about other places, but in most places couldn't you simply wear a long sleeve shirt underneath your main clothes? I haven't ever worked, so I wouldn't know their regulations about that, but they do allow it at my school.
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I didn't hear that you could
1 year () (Permalink)I didn't hear that you could until I'd already come in short sleeves so I just sort of went with it since it'd get hot when I worked usher and food service there. Most of my co-workers were smart enough to not make any comments so it wasn't anybody I knew. Only one asked me about it at all.
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I don't think it's wrong in
1 year () (Permalink)I don't think it's wrong in the moral sense since that would be ridiculous. Self-injury isn't wrong. I do have the uncomfortable factor though.
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Over with, thank you.
1 year () (Permalink)I already spoke to the administrator, and we BOTH agreed on things. So, I'm now over with this conversation, before this turns into some fight.
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This section was originally
1 year () (Permalink)This section was originally modeled after Secret Shame which is basically the great-grandmother of all self-injury sites. This section makes me uneasy too.
The Contact link is on the left above Search. Is it malfunctioning for you or is it simply that you did not see it?
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How I Self-Injure
2 years () (Permalink)I mostly cut with razors. I used to cut with shaving razors, and before that, knifes. I burn myself with glue guns and cigarettes. I give myself friction burns with erasers and scotch brite scrubbers. I starve myself and I punch and scratch myself sometimes.
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