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Lia_15

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I went to the doctor a few days ago, and after gathering up the courage to tell her that I needed help because I SH and have anxiety, she told me I needed to go speak to someone. She said I needed to see a psychiatrist, and I told my mom.

Now, my parents aren't the most understanding. They're Christian, and sort of use that as an excuse to shut me out when I say something they don't want to hear. I got caught cutting three years ago, and they tried to beat the SHing out of me. I made things worse, of course, and I'm afraid to tell them I really need help.

My friend suggested that i tell my guidance counselor at school about my SH and anxiety, and that he would try to get me the help I need.

But aren't they required to tell parents about stuff like this? And I'm being told that I would have to be hospitalized as well. Is this true?

Is there any way he can help me without getting my parents involved?

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Guidance counselors are required to tell the guardians if the minor is hurting themselves or someone else (or planning to) but just because they tell your parents does not mean they will put you in a hospital, there are many different ways to treat SI and you and your parents should talk and work together on how you can help yourself 

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Well if your parents have beat you in the past for self harm, I'm sure telling the counsellor that would help. But it might also prompt a call to CPS (child protective services).

A counsellor I had at school understood that I wanted to tell my mum myself. She didn't tell my mum, she waited for me to tell her when I was ready.

Is there any way you could tell your parents that you need help with managing anxiety, without mentioning self harm? Then perhaps if you got the help you need, then you could tell the psychiatrist/therapist etc, why you dont want them to know. That they get mad and shut you out and it's not helpful to you at all, especially while you are trying to help yourself with these issues.

Goodluck :)

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Well if your parents have beat you in the past for self harm, I'm sure telling the counsellor that would help. But it might also prompt a call to CPS (child protective services).

A counsellor I had at school understood that I wanted to tell my mum myself. She didn't tell my mum, she waited for me to tell her when I was ready.

Is there any way you could tell your parents that you need help with managing anxiety, without mentioning self harm? Then perhaps if you got the help you need, then you could tell the psychiatrist/therapist etc, why you dont want them to know. That they get mad and shut you out and it's not helpful to you at all, especially while you are trying to help yourself with these issues.

Goodluck :)

I tried. To tell them about the anxiety, I mean. Same issue. Same answer. Nothing happened.

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I think the best thing would be to tell your counselor. Your parents are legally obligated to help you and if they refuse you may be able to make a case for getting help yourself without their consent.

I know I should. But I keep freezing up. I don't think I can do it.

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I know it can be scary. I had to have several conversations with my guidance counselor back when I was in school. Some were voluntary, some involuntary. And honestly, the best thing to do is to make the first step yourself, it always went better when I went in myself and asked for help. Yes it's scary, but you CAN do this.

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dear lia

have you tried asking the counsellor? maybe is is restricted by doctor-patient relationship and he doesnt have to talk to your parents, especially if you tell him that they already know and  have reacted badly and have not supported you. 

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To all who are interested, I never did it. My fear of my parents discovering is much greater than my desire to get better, I guess.

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@Lia_15, My Social Worker, and Vice Principal know for me, and a few other people in my school. As far as I know, they only called parents if they found blades after a student denied them, OR if the student was caught SHing on campus. While in some cases they do have to tell by school rules, there are conditions where they are not obligated to tell. My social worker asked me where I cut and then asked to see it to double check that it hasnt been recently, and told me it was going to stay between us. As for being put in the hospital- if your parents aren't gonna get you help, chances are they aren't going to put you in the hospital. There is however a way to be put in the hospital for SH. My stepsister is gonna have to next time my mom see cuts, she is being Vaporacted(i think thats the word....) but basically you're locked in a room for a day or 2.= very unlikely you'd have to go through it. My dad knows I have SHed about 6 months ago and thinks it is for attention, so we don't talk about it, and a friend of mine is the only one who really knows its not over...and she is hinting that it's for attention, so really I think a school conselor/social worker is sorta the best way to go bc they focus more on the real reason, and work on uncovering the emotional reasons......and they don't HAVE to tell your parents-mine didnt :)

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Thank you! I hope this is true.. I did hear that someone did the same thing and ended up getting taken away in handcuffs. I don't need that. This was at the school i go to though, so maybe that's just us.

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.

I'm gonna find out exactly what happened. But they have my parents' contact info on

file, so I wouldn't be able to get away with giving them another number.

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Hey sorry- i think i forgot to follow this thread and couldnt find it for a while. But that what my stepsis and I did was go into the office before hand, ask for a paper to change the contact info, and told her to put my # instead. Basically if you tell them the info they have is outdated they normally wont check it. I know you are probably out of school for summer, but that is something to keep in mind for next year. Did you learb what happened to the other kid? What grade will you be in come fall?( im just wondering if we are the same age....) i just turned 16. But anyways i dont think the school would tell your parents under the circumstances;)

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I'm going to be a senior now, and I'm 16. But I never did find out what happened to him, and I may just do the number change.

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Whoa! Did you skip a grade or 2? Im going to be a junoir an im the youngest in my grade......and ya the number change works pretty well- just make sure your phone is on silent when they call if you are in school. And dont have your name on the answerin machine! Just ask for a sheet to change contact info and forge a signature.. Its suprisingly easy to do. Too bad you didnt find out what happened to the other kid....

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If you're under 18, sadly...no. 

 

Believe me, I tried, but I was a couple months short of being 18 when the school called my mom. I think it's all stupid really...

 

Plus, it's really difficult to get help without parents, because therapists cost money...and when I mean money, I mean MEGA MONEY! In order to get a therapist, they would have to pay for it. 

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I never did it. I'm too afraid of my parents finding out.

It's whatever I guess.

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