Discovering that their teen “cuts” is absolutely terrifying for parents. Without a clear understanding of what motivates cutting, many worry their teen may be contemplating suicide. Michael R. Hollander, a leading authority on teen self-injury, gives parents the straight facts about this alarming behavior–and explains what they can do to make it stop. Drawing on years of clinical practice and the latest research, Dr. Hollander shows how overwhelming emotions lead some teens to hurt themselves, and how various treatments–chief among them dialectical behavioral therapy (DBT)–can provide effective routes to wellness. Parents learn what to look for in a therapist, how to talk to their teen about cutting without making it worse, and practical strategies for helping their teen cope with extreme emotions in a healthier way. Helping Teens Who Cut also provides much-needed suggestions for reducing stress and improving family communication and problem solving.
The last decade has witnessed a marked increase in the incidence of self harm. Along with this proliferation has come increased public and clinical interest in understanding and treating these seemingly counterintuitive behaviors. This book focuses on the personal experiences of survivors in order to gain insight into the experience of transition towards, living with, and recovery from self harm. The author utilized the Grounded Theory method to develop a theoretical model describing a process whereby: (a) exclusive and/or intrusive experiences play a central role in precipitating pathogenesis of deliberate self-harm, (b) a sense of loss of control results from these exclusive/intrusive experiences, (c) self-harming behaviours occur in an attempt to manage this sense of loss of control, and (d) continued exclusionary/intrusive experiences act to maintain self-harming behaviours. Recovery occurs in the context of an environmental shift, leading to the experience of social inclusion, which facilitates a sense of control.
Dealing with a child who cuts or self-harms in any way breaks a parents heart.
It does not matter if the child is a teen or a pre-teen all you can think about is how to help them.
This book is written by a parent of a child who cuts. I wrote this book because many times parents feel alone and clueless when confronted with this activity.
The anger and disillusion can be overwhelming. Who can you talk to and worse who can you trust with such a sensitive subject can. Issues like this can make you feel like you are alone.
In here you will find out that you are not the only parent that struggled. The issue of self-harm can make you feel angry, guilty, or even just denial to name a few. You will understand that what you are feeling is normal and even get action steps to help both you and your child.
The faster we as parents are able to process our feelings the easier it will be for us to be strong enough to help our children work through their issues.
You will meet me another parent who has gone through what you are going through. You will also find hope. Many times as parents we are so focused on helping our child we forget we need help too.
Understanding Self-Harm is a guide for parents, teachers, therapists or anyone who lives with, supports or provides therapy for people who self-harm. This book blows away the stigma and myths that are attached to this distressing behavior. It explains fully and comprehensively what self-harm is really about and includes a step-by-step section on how people who self-harm should and can be supported and helped.
Celebrated transsexual trailblazer Kate Bornstein has, with more humor and spunk than any other, ushered us into a world of limitless possibility through a daring re-envisionment of the gender system as we know it.
Here, Kate bravely and wittily shares personal and unorthodox methods of survival for navigating an often cruel world. A one-of-a-kind guide to staying alive outside the box, Hello, Cruel World is a much-needed unconventional approach to teenage suicide prevention for marginalized youth who want to stay on the edge, but alive.
Hello, Cruel World features a catalog of 101 Alternatives to Suicide that range from the playful (Moisturize), to the irreverent (Disbelieve the Binary), to the highly controversial (Get Laid. Please). Designed to encourage readers to give themselves permission to unleash their hearts’ harmless desires, the book has only one directive: “Don’t be mean.” It is this guiding principle that brings its reader on a self-validating journey, which forges wholly new paths toward a resounding decision to choose life.
Whatever you are struggling with right now - whether it be an illness, loss of a loved one, the demise of a relationship, or perhaps even a depression that has no clear reason; this is the book that you will want to keep coming back to.
101 Distractions from Depression, Self-harm (and other Soul-destroyers) is a non-conventional self-help book designed to offer friendly, important advice during those moments when it is impossible to see through that oppressive fog of depression.
Sophia spent over ten years battling depression and an addiction to self-harm, and understands that much of her recovery was due to making these very simple changes. In those tiny moments where she distracted herself from mental illness – be it by digging up weeds, walking through the park, or taking a bath; depression took a back seat and loosened its grip ever so slightly. The difficulty was always in finding the inspiration to make a start, and this is where the idea for 101 Distractions came from. Each and every distraction has been tried and tested and have all helped her become the confident, depression-free person she is today. This book is designed to help you make that change too.
Each of the 101 short, easily digested chapters offers new ideas to help you distract yourself from the negative thoughts, giving you enough breathing space to build the tools to fight them. This in turn helps you to understand that the negativity consuming you is not as permanent as it feels.
Combining simple, often overlooked ideas with the all-important chance to understand exactly how each distraction has helped the author, think of this book as your springboard to recovery. The snippets of Sophia’s life in each page could be just what you need to feel as though you aren’t alone, or it could be the insight you are after in order to understand how to help yourself or someone close to you.
‘Unlike so many self help books where the premise is that you trade in your old self for a new self, in 101 Distractions, Sophia suggests you stay with who you are and how you are feeling but seek a practical solution that will help transport you to a different ‘headspace’. For example, by reaching out and connecting to other people, interests or activities she shows you can move away from a familiar but unhelpful habit of mind to a more positive outlook.’ - Marjorie Wallace CBE, Chief Executive of SANE (Foreword)
Just when you thought that all hope was lost, 101 Distractions is here to scrape you off the floor and help you reclaim life.
For every copy of this book sold, 50% of all profits will be donated to SANE – who work tirelessly to improve the quality of life for anyone affected by mental illness.
Cutting, burning, branding, and bone-breaking are all types of self-injury, or the deliberate, non-suicidal destruction of one’s own body tissue, a practice that emerged from obscurity in the 1990s and spread dramatically as a typical behavior among adolescents. Long considered a suicidal gesture, The Tender Cut argues instead that self-injury is often a coping mechanism, a form of teenage angst, an expression of group membership, and a type of rebellion, converting unbearable emotional pain into manageable physical pain.
Based on the largest, qualitative, non-clinical population of self-injurers ever gathered, noted ethnographers Patricia and Peter Adler draw on 150 interviews with self-injurers from all over the world, along with 30,000-40,000 internet posts in chat rooms and communiqués. Their 10-year longitudinal research follows the practice of self-injury from its early days when people engaged in it alone and did not know others, to the present, where a subculture has formed via cyberspace that shares similar norms, values, lore, vocabulary, and interests. An important portrait of a troubling behavior, The Tender Cut illuminates the meaning of self-injury in the 21st century, its effects on current and former users, and its future as a practice for self-discovery or a cry for help.
Self-injury can be as addictive as any drug, and the secrecy and shame many sufferers feel about this behavior can keep them feeling trapped. But if you’re ready to replace self-harm with a set of healthy coping skills, this compassionate and practical book can help.
This complete guide to stopping self-injury gives you the facts about self-harm, corrects common myths about this behavior, and provides self-soothing techniques you can begin using right away for regulating difficult or overwhelming emotions. Freedom from Self-Harm also includes self-assessment worksheets, guidance for seeking professional help, and information about the most effective therapies and medications. Drawn from treatments such as dialectical behavior therapy and acceptance and commitment therapy, the tools in this book can help you cope with your emotions whenever you feel the urge to self-harm.
You may have noticed them—the kids who are hiding their pain under long sleeves or wristbands. Or you might never notice them—the ones who seem to have life together except for the deep secret that they keep hidden beneath their clothes. This is no longer a fringe issue that occurs only in the most extreme cases. The truth is that many teens today are dealing with their emotional pain by inflicting physical pain upon themselves, whether we can see it on the surface or not. While we may never fully understand the motives behind self-mutilation and cutting, we can begin to understand why some teens cut, and more importantly, we can learn how to help. Hope and Healing for Kids Who Cut will take you into the world of self-injury, defining what it is—and what it is not. You’ll hear stories from teens and young adults who struggle with the urge to hurt themselves, and you’ll learn to recognize the signs of self-injury. In addition, counselor and professor, Marv Penner will help you understand the cycle of addiction, that has become everyday life for so many hurting teens, and he’ll give you the tools and wisdom to help a self-injurer find hope and healing. Whether you know someone who is cutting, or you are struggling with this addiction yourself, Hope and Healing for Kids Who Cut is something you want to have in your “first-aid” kit.
Book Title: Hope and Healing for Kids Who Cut: Learning to Understand and Help Those Who Self-Injure (Youth Specialties)
Author: Marv Penner
The author of the seminal and groundbreaking Treating and Overcoming Anorexia Nervosa now explains the phenomena of self-mutilation a disorder that affects as many as two million Americans. Cutting takes the reader through the psychological experience of the person who seeks relief from mental pain and anguish in self-inflicted physical pain. Steven Levenkron traces the components that predispose a personality to becoming a self-mutilator: genetics family experience childhood trauma and parental behavior. Written for the self-mutilator parents friends and therapists Levenkron explains why the disorder manifests in self-harming behaviors and most of all describes how the self-mutilator can be helped.
There are people who deliberately cut their skin, burn themselves, and break their own bones. They do it systematically for many years, and without help they can rarely stop. Many have lived through severe forms of emotional or physical childhood abues. The pain they feel is mute– their only cry “a bright red scream.”
Considering recent statistics, chances are you know someone who deliberately harms himself. In fact, you might know several, though their behavior may remain hidden from or a mystery to you. Experts estimate that millions of people engage in some form of self-injury, a shocking physical expression of emotional and spiritual pain. Because “cutting” is so misunderstood, some people believe it’s just a bid for attention or an adolescent phase. Others assume self-harm is a girls’ problem only and doesn’t happen to “good” people, let alone Christians. Yet this practice has quietly spread into mainstream America, crossing all age and gender lines and even into the church. When confronted with this silent epidemic, how can we respond and help those in desperate need? Drawing from a rich blend of research and interviews, best-selling author Jerusha Clark, with Dr. Earl Henslin, explores this complex problem that has no easy solution. With an empathetic heart and a compassionate voice, she brings light to a dark condition and delivers hope to victims and their loved ones.
This book is a giant leap forward in making self-harm understandable to professionals and self-harmers alike. The damaging, often deliberate ignorance of society at large about the consequences of childhood trauma and abuse, whether sexual, physical or emotional is deep rooted. For people already suffering to have to cope with hostile disbelief and judgemental attitudes is a double injury.
Book Title: Healing the Hurt Within : Understand and Relieve the Suffering Behind Self-Destructive Behaviour
Author: Jan Sutton
What is self-injury? Why would people deliberately hurt themselves? Why can’t they stop? What can I do to help? These question are asked and answered in SECRETSCARS, a revealing look at the addiction of self-injury. Self-injury is one of the fastest growing health problems among teenage girls today. Despite its prevalence, however, self-injury remains a behavior shrouded in mystery and misconceptions. SECRETSCARS is a groundbreaking book that demystifies self-injury by explaining it as an addiction. The author takes both an engaging and scholarly approach to help the reader understand the dynamics involved in self-injury. Not only does Turner share case histories and her personal struggle as a former self-injurer, she backs it up by citing studies, research findings, and clinical outcomes.
Welcome to self-injury.net. We are a support community for self-harmers and also provide information on self-harm, creative works, media lists, lists of resources (helplines, textlines, mental health apps, therapists, etc.), etc. We focus on self-injury but a number of other mental health issues are included.