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    • My name is Gabrielle. I began to self-injure at age fifteen and continued to do so for seventeen years. I recently relapsed but am attempting a year without self-harm. This website was made to let self-injurers know that they are not alone and to help their friends and family learn more about self-injury and how it affects their loved one.

      This is a community but there is an extensive FAQ about self-injury and a detailed series of pages about recovery from self-injury. There is also an pretty large list of resources for self-injurers. There is a detailed list of where self-injury appears in the media, be it movies, celebrities, music. It is both to show how self-injury affects media and has moved into the creative social conscious and as a trigger warning for those avoiding depictions of self-injury.

      Feel free to browse and, if you’d like to blog, post on the forum (called Safe Haven), create a gallery, exchange status updates, or otherwise become a part of the community, register!

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    I’m seventeen..first SI was when I was 15. After a particularly nasty fight with my parents I went to the bathroom, took a pair of tweezers, and hacked at my wrist (how many times I’m not sure..) Other times I got upset I would beat on walls or hard things until I bruised, if no one was around. For awhile I stopped hurting myself. A few months ago I stole a razor from work. I was feeling a lot of stress in my relationship. My boyfriend wasn’t the nicest to me and I started cutting myself when things got stressful. One day I told my father about me hurting myself and I wanted to see a counselor. I see a counselor now but I still cut when I get stressed or think about bad things..I want to stop.

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    Aikoyu Saotome

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    It sounds like you’re really in a bind ( Therapy doesn’t work for me, but it might work for you. Maybe you could see someone? Ask your parents, if you want to, if you could go to therapy. You don’t have to tell them why. Make up something. Or, if you’re like me and you’re too strong-willed and too much of a private person, find a friend who will listen, not judge, and not run to an “adult.” Someone who will help you every step of the way. I have that person. I’m going to marry him in a few years. I haven’t cut since spring of 2007.

    My prayers and hopes go out to you. Please don’t think of suicide. It’s not the answer and you’ll hurt too many people.

    Amanda

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    I’m so glad to have found you. I first started injuring myself when I was 13. I cut myself after my uncle raped me. Then became promiscuous for the next 3 years. I stopped and felt I was healed when I married the most wonderful man. I’m now in my 40’s and started injuring myself again 7 years ago. There are the good times and the bad times and the bad times seem to be getting worse. Apparently I don’t suffer from clinical depression and when I was on anti depressants the problem became much worse. When I feel I have no control over an aspect in my life I cut myself or take pills and drink alcohol or all 3. A few years ago when I started cutting myself again, I was stupid enough to cut my arms…nice and visible and when someone questioned me about it it was “crazy cat scratches’. Now I cut my thighs and hips, but they are becoming more frequent. I feel anxiety when I prepare for it, but relief after the fact. My GP sent me to counseling which has done bugger all and I was given all kinds of self-help books, ‘as if’ I’m going to read those, especially on my own. Much better to be able to interact with others that at least understand the deeper part of the ‘why’. My community, friends and family with exception of my husband have no idea I’m this broken. Thanks so much for being. I feel like I have some brothers and sisters reading what you have to say. Today is another day of not being able to cope and I’m scared once again.

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    People DO need to realize.
    Also, I’m 15 and the school found out, and they told my dad too. He knew I had cut before, but he flipped out anyways. All he thinks about is that I’ll get put in an insane asylum. Also, my grades are suffering. I just don’t care anymore. My dad is scared that I will lose scholarship money because I’m not making staright A’s anymore. Nobody seems to understand. Here, I hope some will.

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    I’m not really sure where to begin since I find this very hard to talk about, so this is a big step for me… Well, I’m 17 years old and I started to SI when I was 12. Most of the time it gets out of hand. I think to much of it always being there for me, and how it conforts me and keeps anger, saddness, bad thoughts, memories, and stress off of my mind. I don’t know how to control it, because I honestly love it. It is something that never leaves me and never lets me down. There is alot more to this story, but its hard enuff saying this much. I thank you for this website because it helps me open up. Its really nice knowing im not alone..
     <3

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    Guest Anonymous

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    for me it started when I was about 8-9 with pulling all my eye lashes out after that I started pulling my hair out I still have a little bald spot and I am 37 now I started the burning and cutting around 14 and at 28 I had my first child thats when I stopped

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    Guest fallen_angel

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    i understand how you feel. i have been there and i know how scared you feel. here is somethings that helped me out i hope it can inspire you to find a way free of this way of thinking. when dealing with self injuerious behaviors u must treat and deal with them as an addicition. try figureing out what cuases you deisre to hurt ur self and where you think it comes from think about what it is that makes the act of harming your self ease ur emotional feelings or the root reasion you resort to cutting your self next become aware that this is a copeing mecxhinisum plain and simple. dont look at it as quiting cutting look at it as relaceing cutting with a more healtie behavior. look at the people around you and see how they cope with there worlds and think about what you could do and what healtie means to you. some things that worked for me is rubber bands that i would wear around my wrists and when i thought about cutting i pop myself over and over till the feeling passed or untill i foucused on something else. holding ice in your hands works to. it hurts but causes no damage and gives you time to think before haveing to act again. i ended up useing music to pull me out of my hell… i started cutting as a reaction to being assulted and raped and the lack of control i feel and to espress my misplaced angery and shame. i started a concert band and begain prforming classical music i learned to play meny differant insterments and after a while no longer thought about cutting. i took a long time and self control but it is possaible and something else to remimber is that it dose no one any good to beat ur self up over relaspes they happin life moves on and things gett better. the act of cutting wass once described to me as grabing an emotion of sadness that is flooting by like a cloud in the sky and pulling it down and holding on to it instead of letting it go by when you chose not to cut you are letting that emotion slide by and effect you for a shorter time instead of holding on and letting it consume you. think about it and ull see it holds truth. and one last thing…. dont let any one presure you in to stoping… the only way this is ganna work is if you ddedicate your self to this. it takes work and can make you feel discouraged but in the long run it is well worth it…. i wish you luck i hope this helps and keep your chin up and never stop fighting u cant do this BE POSITIVE it helps trust me

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    hi im fallen angel. im new to this site and im just looking for suport from people who really understand. i have been cutting off and on for at years as a responce to being assulted and raped. cutting was how i took back control over my emotions and expressed my shame and anger. id cut to relive the feeling pileing up on me then when things started getting worse ( my parents found out started talking about hospitalizeing me the school found out and i was expelled my boyfriend of two years left me and i was raped for a scond time ) i started thinking about and trying to commiet suicide then thinks totally spun out of control and i lost all privicy. for the longest time i feelt like every one around me was ganna brake if i even looked at them so i cut my self off. i hooked up with a guy and feel in love and after therapy and drug trails i managed to stop cutting but then started smokeing pot all of the time untill i got pregant. i was scared and feelt like i was going to be looked down on and so i relapsed after me and my guy had been together for four years i found out he was cheating on me thou most of our realtionship and when i got upset over this he got violent and things once again spun out of control now im im college tring to rebuild my life and working to raise happy healthy children and im feel like im drownding… im haveing panic attacks again and thinking of cutting most of the time. so much so that for some reasion i decided to write my psychology paper on self injery and self harm. i want to try to help other people with the urge to hurt them selfs because doing so helps me to feel like i can move past it and ive been makeing room for music in my life again. but im here so i can talk about it. i dont want to got to the docter because i dont want to go in to the hospital for these feelings or to be watched consitanly again. if any one would ever like to talk to me message me on yahoo. my sn is lilgothgirl34 just tell me that ur from this page and that ud like to talk…. im more then happy to help.

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    Guest Patricia Kommunion

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    Hey Gabrielle! I´m really apreciative for that blog. A friend also hurts herself and fell totally destitute. Don´t know what to do. Maybe you could help…

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    Guest Anonymous

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    i’m nearly 20, n i couldnt remember when did i began the thought of hurting myself. i only did it twice b4 –making small cuts on my wrist with a blade – and i forgot when.

    but today, when i looked at those wounds, i suddenly had the idea of hurting myself again. it was so irresistible n i had no other thoughts in mind. i couldnt find a blade, but i did it with a pair of sissors anyway.

    feeling pain seems to be the only way of easing my mind. now i’m so scared. Y would i suddenly think of SI again after being good for all these years? what if i could help doing it again n again?

    SOS, help me plz.

    Marg

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    Guest Jazzy j

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    hi Gabrielle i have a question for you. i am a college student am am study self injury and was wondering if i could interview you or anyone else about this topic, that is if you want. if you could get back that would be great> thank you very much for your time.

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    Guest Anonymous

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    You never had to smile pretty and pretend with me…. You know that I listened and never judged you. I am still willing to listen and not judge, only help you through whatever it is…

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    empathetical pieces

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    im definitely up for being interviewed if you want to use me. ive been a self-injurer for 3 and a half years, and am trying to quit.

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    Hi Gabrielle. I think it’s great that you are using your experience to help others. I need to interview ON CAMERA someone in the NY area about the experience of self-harm. It’s a not-for-profit program to educate college students about this and other mental health issues.  I don’t know where you are located, but if you are in the NY area, I hope you will share your story for our program. If you are in another part of the country,  perhaps someone else posting on this site is. Please email me directly at aimeeatsnapfocusproductions.com. Hope to hear from you!

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    Oh well, Thanks anyway! I wish you much luck!

    If anyone else is reading this and are in the NY area and would like to share your story to help others, please email me at aimeeatsnapfocusproductions.com.

    Thanks!

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    I’m glad I found this site. There’s plenty of space for me to vent my thoughts and not feel like I have to apologize for it afterwards. Thank you Gabrielle for giving us a chance to make ourselves heard.    

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    Guest beckiezzz

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    hey. i was so taken with ur post that i just felt led to reply. i share all the same feelings that you do about this addiction. i started when i was 12 too and i dont even remember now the initial reason for even trying it. i tried every way imaginable to justify with myself that i was okay even tho i had a secret that i was passionate about. i chalked it up to a teenage phase that teenagers are so famous for. but now, 16 years later, i still seek comfort in the feelings that rush me when i indulge in what i know i shouldn’t. at 12 i knew better and believe me, at 28 i definitely know better. i’ve opened up to very few people about my problem because attention is the last thing i want brought to light about my cutting. i hate the shame i feel afterwards but i willingly pay that price every time. i’m an educated individual & i know i’m not crazy or violent or extravagant…but i’m hesitant to seek real help despite what i know because i’m scared to lose the security i’ve found in cutting myself. i almost dont wanna give it up. if u feel like talking with someone who understands but is just as lost as anyone who uses SI as a coping tool, please feel free. beckiezzzatyahoo.com

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    Guest Embodying Freedom

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    Thank you for this blog. It’s really honest, and I admire that. There need to be more real, supportive blogs out there. No one should feel alone!

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    RainbowReyne

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    Sometimes it’s hard for people to tell someone , not know what they’re going to think , not knowing what’s going to happen to them if they tell. I believe , from personal experience , that that some people are just scared.

    I’m 15 now , started SI-ing when I was around the age of 12. Emotional abuse from my dad , my mum being an alcoholic , it was pretty hard.
    But then I moved in with my sister , I still self injure but not as much and am slowly stopping.
    I know that if I tell her that I’m SI-ing once in a while she will freak and put me in a mental hospital , I don’t want that,
    So I hide it , but still I talk to my bestfriend Austyn about it when I do and she doesn’t judge or anything.
    I guess what I’m trying to say is , some people are scared , some people are brave.
    But I personally believe I am putting myself through home rehab :)

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    Guest Dajorame

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    A friend of mines daughter has been cutting herself and my friend is scared stiff. As you can imagine. After reading some of your stories I actually feel different about my opinion of why she does it. I thought it was purely an attention seeking venture, not a form of emotional release. Can you ever be cured of this or is this something that becomes manageable or you learn to cope with it? Can this go too far where someone could actually cut themselves deep enough they would bleed out? I hope my questions haven’t been to intrucive, I am asking these question for my friend.
    I really can feel the fear and stress in all of you words you have all typed. I wish you all the strength and faith you need to get yourselves through this. Make sure you tell at least one person you trust with this illness, the more support you have around you the stronger you will become.
    Good luck all!

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    barelysurviving

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    I cut and have been a self injurer for quite some time. When my parents found out they took very hard. First of all what you thought prior was wrong. I haven’t met anyone that does it intentionaly for attention. I’m glad you were able to realize that. I wouldn’t say you can be cured of it. A person needs to learn and understand other ways od coping which is what therapy is helping me do now. It’s extremely addicive and very hard to stop. I am no where near that becuase it takes so much work but I promise you that when she is ready or gets the help she needs she will be able to stop. As for dying from cutting… This is hard to get. A few people do die of it but almost everyone fails. You would have to cut an artory or really deep gashes but usually that isnt quite enough the body will start to heal it and they would have to be reopened numorous times. Sorry if I went into detail so much. My answer I guess is yes but very very unlikely. Hope this helped.

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