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    • I was going to go swimming and my mother just recently had found out about my scars on my thighs and had assumed i stopped. But when it was time to go swimming with a friend. I knew if they saw they’d freak or tell my mom. So i told them “i have a secret.. and i dont want you to freak out” at first they laughed. Then when they saw they were confused and serious.

      But thankfully my best friend brushed it off as no big deal and calmed the others. Once i was alone with my best friend he gave me a “pep” talk and encouraged me to stop. But would understand if i couldnt or needed time.

      Everaince we’ve been pretty tight. And he listens to why i cut and doesnt tell my mother or family and is easy to talk to. Almost gives me no reason to cut. Until I’m alone.

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    Guest maxdjdjjfj if

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    My parents got angry with me. My dad tried to kill me once over it.

    Cps didn’t do anything, mom refuses to acknowledge it happened but my siblings remember.

    I learned that day that I can’t trust them to not hurt me.

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    Draco Malfoy

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    I’m sorry you can’t trust your parents/family and that CPS failed you. Hopefully you find other people in your life you can rely on. My father was never quite so violent but he could be a very scary man, especially when I was in my teens.

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    ScarsofFeelings

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    I'm afraid this is what my dad will do if he ever finds out. He is very scary and violent (usually more verbally than physically), but he was physically abused as a child, so who's to say he couldn't/wouldn't do it to me. 

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    On 19 January 2016 at 9:04 PM, Ella10 said:

    I'm afraid this is what my dad will do if he ever finds out. He is very scary and violent (usually more verbally than physically), but he was physically abused as a child, so who's to say he couldn't/wouldn't do it to me. 

    Luckily it doesn't need to be parents to talk to. The Internet gives a lifeline to everyone for whatever reason. Find a professional to talk to. You don't need to go through this alone. It is important not to go through this alone. I found many great webpages (including this one) to help me. Great advice.  Read lots of them until one resembles what you are going through.  Try the advice.  Like a bowl of fruit, if there is one bad apple, you don't throw them all out, just the bad one.  Well, everyday without self harming is a good Apple. If one day you "slip up", don't dwell, just throw it away.  Start again. Soon there will be more good apples in your fruit bowl than bad.  Make a note in a journal /diary of your feelings. By being aware of your feelings you know what to look out for next time.  Write a soothing note to yourself which you can read if you are about to, or are self harming.  Or A great game to play to bring you back to reality...

    54321

    • Name 5 things you can see in the room with you.
    • Name 4 things you can feel (“chair on my back” or “feet on floor”)
    • Name 3 things you can hear right now (“fingers tapping on keyboard” or “tv”)
    • Name 2 things you can smell right now (or, 2 things you like the smell of)
    • Name 1 good thing about yourself. (When you feel good, write some on a piece of paper and pick one out of the hat if you are in a dark place at the time of playing)

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